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Virtual or In-Person?

The Three to Get Married program has continued it's operations throughout the closures launching into a virtual format.  We continue to monitor the situation and respond to recommendations from local and Church authorites. Below you will find upcoming dates for our program, offering a mixture of in-person and virtual sessions.

Early registration is encouraged to reserve your preferred date, and to allow us to inform you, in a timely manner, of any changes in format due to updates in restrictions.

Weekends fill quickly. Reserve your spot today!

Upcoming Dates:

  • Dec 3-6, 2020     VIRTUAL ONLY              REGISTER

New Dates for the New Year!
(Registration links coming soon.)

  • Jan 28-31, 2021    IN-PERSON ONLY
  • Feb 11-14, 2021   VIRTUAL ONLY
  • Feb 18-21, 2021   IN-PERSON ONLY
  • Mar 11-14, 2021   IN-PERSON ONLY
  • Apr 8-11, 2021      VIRTUAL ONLY
  • Apr 22-25, 2021    IN-PERSON ONLY



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Preparing for Marriage–the Pre-Cana Requirement

The Three to Get Married Marriage Preparation Program draws upon the best in contemporary psychology, practical wisdom from the experience of married couples, and the beauty of the Catholic Church’s teachings on marriage and family life in order to give you the best foundation on which to build a successful marriage. Our marriage preparation course is an intensive preparation experience true to the teachings of the Catholic Church. It aims to provide each couple with a reflective and in-depth preparation for a joyful, faith-filled marriage—based on love that not only endures but actually grows stronger year after year.

Are You Ready?!

Weekends fill quickly. Reserve your spot today!

Hoping that normal activities will soon resume, please register for your preferred date below. Doing so helps keep you informed of developments. 

  • Aug 27-30, 2020                          REGISTER
  • Sep 17-20, 2020                          REGISTER
  • Oct 29-Nov, 1 2020                      REGISTER
  • Nov 12-15, 2020                          REGISTER

Cancellation/Refund Policy

To cancel your registration and request a refund, you must contact us at least 10 days in advance before your scheduled session. Keep in mind there is a $75 nonrefundable deposit with all registrations.

To transfer your registration to another weekend, you must make a request at least 10 days before your scheduled session and there must be openings on the weekend to which you wish to transfer.

Determining the venue of your wedding and what you will wear are important details to plan for. But, more important than these are the things you need to do to lay the groundwork to ensure that you will be able to get married in the Catholic Church

Couples getting married in the Catholic Church are required to begin sacramental preparation at least six months (some parishes require 12 months) prior to the wedding.

During that time couples must:

  • Meet with a "preparing priest" or deacon to complete all the necessary paperwork for the marriage and to receive spirtual counseling in preparation for the Sacrament.
  • Meet with pastor or staff of the wedding location to plan for the wedding ceremony
  • Participate in a Marriage Preparation Program, such as Three to Get Married.

Just like the pre-pandemic days,  live speakers will present each topic throughout the weekend and you will be encouraged to spend time talking to each other about the topics that will be presented and how they relate to your relationship.  The only difference is now couples and speakers will participate virtually, via Zoom.  

You’ll still enjoy a memorable weekend with your future spouse growing more deeply in love and knowledge of each other, but also in your love and knowledge of God and His plan for your marriage. We hope you will see that these loves are intimately related—it takes three to get married!


Format of the Weekend

The weekend is a mixture of talks, questionnaires, and time for personal reflection and private discussion that allows couples to deepen their understanding of Catholic marriage—with all of its possibilities and challenges. The program begins by focusing on the practical aspects of marriage and then moves toward the spiritual aspects, concluding on Sunday with a day-long couple’s retreat, with opportunities for confession* and Sunday Mass. This weekend is about YOU and is designed to help you initiate those critical conversations needed to lay a solid foundation for your future.


Remote Attendance

We will be utilizing a Pro version of ZOOM to connect everyone to the program throughout the weekend. Attendance at all talks is mandatory in order to receive the certificate of completion. We will require cameras to be on during the talks.  This will allow the speakers to "see" their audience and not feel like they are talking into a blank computer screen. 

If you and your fiancé will be attending from different locations

A critical aspect of our program is the time you will spend in conversation with your fiancé talking about the different topics that we will present to you and sharing with each other your responses to the questionnaires that we will provide. 

We realize that everyone is in a different situation during this time of isolation and lockdown. If you are both able to attend from the same location, then you will be able to have these conversations face to face. But, if you and your fiancé are isolated in separate locations during this time, it’s important to find the ability to talk to each other during the questionnaire times. We are sure you have a preferred platform for commicating with each other. Please let us know if you have any questions via this email.


Sunday Mass

Sunday’s schedule includes Mass.


*Outside Confessions on Sunday

For those located near Our Lady of Bethesda Retreate Center, priests will be available for outside confession on Sunday afternoon. Schedule TBA.

Typical Program Schedule
Schedule may be subject to change. The following is for general information.

  • Thursday night: 6:45-9:45 pm
  • Friday night: 7:00-9:30 pm
  • Saturday: 8:30 am – 5:00pm
  • Sunday: 8:30 am – 4:30 pm

Attendance at all talks and activities is mandatory in order to receive a certificate of completion.

Sunday Mass
Sunday’s schedule includes Mass.

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The Three to Get Married Marriage Preparation program is now integrated with Witness to Love!

Witness to Love is a parish-based international marriage formation ministry that is being adopted by many local parishes. It features engaged couples choosing a mentor couple from their parish to accompany them through their engagement period and assist them in building a relationship and marriage skills, while their preparing priest or deacon helps them delve into the theology of marriage.

The Three to Get Married weekend fits perfectly into the Witness to Love model and fulfills the “retreat” portion of the recommended curriculum. Plus, the Mentor couples are welcome to join the engaged couple during the weekend, fostering deeper conversations between both couples.

We look forward to welcoming Witness to Love participants to our upcoming weekends! And, Mentor Couples are invited to attend on Sunday of the program.


The FOCCUS Inventory

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FOCCUS is a self-diagnostic inventory designed to help couples learn more about themselves and their unique relationship. It is a tool to help couples identify and work through issues before marriage. It is not a test nor meant as a predictor of success or failure, but a discussion instrument intended to maximize the marriage preparation process by tailoring it to the individual couple and by providing comprehensive content to assist the couple preparing for marriage and those working with them.

Approximately one week prior to the weekend, each couple will receive instructions via email to access their on-line FOCCUS Inventory session. The results of the FOCCUS Inventory will be sent to the priest who is preparing them. Additionally, each couple will have the opportunity to schedule a consultation with a local marriage counselor to review the results of the FOCCUS; this meeting is a great complement to the counseling already being provided by the preparing priest and usually takes place in the week following the marriage prep session.

Couples who have already taken the FOCCUS also may take the opportunity to schedule a feedback consultation.


Certificate of Completion

Upon completion of the weekend, each couple receives documentation to give to the priest who is preparing them.

$315 per couple.

Includes conference materials, FOCCUS materials and follow-up consultation.

Cancellation/Refund Policy

To cancel your registration and request a refund, you must contact us at least 10 days in advance before your scheduled session. Keep in mind there is a $75 nonrefundable deposit with all registrations.

To transfer your registration to another weekend, you must make a request at least 10 days before your scheduled session and there must be openings on the weekend to which you wish to transfer.

A Couple's Experience of Marriage Prep

Marriage Prep Testimonials | Brian and Allison Kennedy | Our Lady of Bethesda

Quick Facts

  • Convenient one-weekend schedule
  • Registration required
  • $315 per couple
  • FOCCUS Inventory included
  • Not an overnight program

You guys have touched our lives in so many ways, we can't even begin to describe, since that day we set foot [in] the Three to Get Married program. Since then, we have not been able to stay away, returning for Three to Stay Married, Monthly Women Reflections, NewlyWeds, and Spirit(s) and Service!"

Seb & Samantha

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Seb & Samantha

It was such a great experience and led us to wanting to have faith play a greater part of our lives and our marriage."

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Ashley and Andrew

What Couples Are Saying About Three to Get Married...

It fosters many conversations and covers a wide variety of practical and spiritual topics. Ultimately, it is a rewarding time to step away from the chaos of life and truly connect and grow with your future spouse."

I was impressed by the talks and the entire program. I am very grateful for the opportunity to attend."

Definitely well put together. Good breaks to have an actual conversation with my fiancé."

Fantastic program! I have learned so much about my future wife and feel more confident and humble then ever going into our marriage."

It was very practical and down to earth. The fact that most of the speakers were married couples was really good."

It was exactly what we were looking for--opportunities to discuss certain topics with guidance & a chance to grow together & reevaluate our relationship."